Little topsy-turvy – I hope you can understand what I meant to say.
I was a really “I don’t know” type kid to talk to when I was younger. I was always asking “Extraterrestrial questions,” almost always revolving around the word “why.”
Why am I here…. what am I supposed to do.. where should I go next.. why do I have to do this..
And it makes people to say me a lot of shits – coz sometimes you just do stuff and don’t question it, right? Yeah – of course – No objections at all.
After I got out of the juvenile/teenage phase of life (where every “why” you ask gets a “because I said so” in return), I entered a new phase of life. More people asking why. Why am I here.. what do I need to do for the rest of my life.
And I thought: Sala, that’s funny. First as a kid, now as an “adult.” Everyone is still asking why. And most people are still giving themselves “because I said so” answers – like me at that phase! I know every species on earth has touched this phase of life.
So once again I started asking myself WTF should I do with my life? What can I do with my life? What am I supposed to do with my life? And, most importantly, WTF do I want to do during my life? What makes it feel worthwhile? But parallelly – somewhere in that phase of life I’ve learnt a lot that – this is the phase of life where everyone should understand the way their parents are growing them. But It’s not that possible – it’s a simple curved phase where you can slip out of your ambitious life or just make your own straight road.
I was like a soft hearted and soft toned guy in that phase of life – my dad helped me to have that trait in me – he never said me to do that, but I’ve learned from him.
Somewhere I’ve read and yes – I don’t remember the exact words but yes – they were –
Life is not a search for pleasure, or a search for power but a hunt for meaning. The greatest task for any person is to find meaning in his or her own life.
I ended up thinking about this more: the deepest human value, one that you can selectively pursue and cultivate to enrich your life, is it really happiness? Or is happiness a consequence of doing things, right?
I think there’s one particular reason why many of us feel completely lost. It’s because we’re searching for the things that are awkwardly wrong to me.
Many people believe that our primary motivation in life is personal pleasure or happiness — that’s just what we strive for and that’s just what our purpose is. I mean, it makes sense:
What’s the most important thing according to your body, your ego? You, of course. Who do you look at first in a picture? Yourself.
We naturally shy from, say, putting our hand on a fire (it hurts) and enjoy doing things like eating cookies and having things like sex/ drink/ or having a temporary happiness, idk -> but these are called minute to win it pleasure– of course they make us feel good.
We help people: it either makes them feel good (which makes us feel good) or it directly makes us feel good. But what if pleasure / enjoyment/ happiness were just positive consequences of doing the right thing and instead there was something you could deliberately cultivate?
The story –
What kind of story are you living? What kind of story do you want to be living?
The problem with not having a story is that even if you experience a lot – (as I know I’ve experienced at the age when everyone was busy kissing and dreaming about their soulmates) – travel, learn, try new things – you aren’t providing a context for all the experiences to occur in.
The experiences just become noise, they are random, chaotic (confused), and although enjoyable, they don’t come together and provide any coherent – reasonable feeling of “purpose.”
They aren’t part of a larger – blockbuster storyline.
If you don’t currently have a story there are 4 qualities I know that are mandatory for any epic tale –
Without a fundamental underlying story, experiences, no matter how enjoyable or epic become noise. The story is the lifeline, the backbone, the thread that connects all experience and makes them worthwhile.
Now the most important episode – grand finale of these “dealings” –
One more quote -> “Those who have a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
There’s one other quality inherent – inborn in a meaningful life: why are you doing what you’re doing?
Why are you doing the work you do? For money? Or for some reason that provides real internal sustenance?
Why are you going to the gym? Is it to look good for your girlfriend/boyfriend/ or is it because you deep down want to do it for yourself? I’m not writing this because of the “one’ whom I wanted to tell this story in a right time – the correct situation.
Some people are more easily influenced by the “why” than others. For example, some people can really defer their happiness and job satisfaction just working for money.
Others get severely depressed after a short time.
A lead character [sushil]
1. He wants something, 2. Has the potential to round off failure. 3. Struggles, 4. But does whatever it takes to realize the story and see it through
And “even more other” people quit soon after because they realize what they are doing is not for themselves.
One should not search for an abstract meaning of life. Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life to carry out a concrete assignment which demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated.
I don’t know what to append in this – But it’s enough to write it to publish it in right time ….
I can’t write more coz I can write only for others – can’t apply the same for me :0 – the irony of my life -> I hope I’ll overcome it and rejig – reshuffle my future dreams.
– – – – – – – – – – …. …. … /////////’ – Waiting for the right time to publish.